“i wish i could do something 😔 / i wish the wga had a kickstarter or a gofundme, i would throw money at it” good news! it’s amazing how you can literally go onto the wga strike website or the wgawest linktree from their twitter and find links to support writers and other workers affected by the strike
My new mission in life is to impart this wisdom to as many people as possible
IT’S ALSO USEFUL IF YOU HAVE TMJ DISORDER
in both cases: always start on the lowest setting and wrapped in something soft!! if it hurts, stop!!
But, re: sinuses: look up a diagram of where they are, and when a spot feels particularly good or is particularly congested, hold it there longer. Definitely keep tissues handy for when it drains. Also it can help if your sinuses hurt like fuck but aren’t actually congested (which happened when I had covid), but the effect doesn’t last long.
Re: TMJ disorder: You can just push it against the joint, obviously; if your vibe has a small contact point you can REALLY dig in there (but again: stop if it hurts). But don’t forget the whole area around the joint, around your ears, and up your scalp. There’s a lot of muscles that tighten when your jaw is tight/stiff/in pain. Be especially careful when on a spot that’s just skin over a bone without a lot of padding.
vibrators can also help if you have restless legs syndrome! Especially ones with fancy pulse patterns. When my RLS is severe I tuck them behind my knees or wherever & can finally lie still & sleep. You might need to wrap them in fabric to avoid skin irritation ymmv. There was even a paper published somewhere called “counter stimulatory devices for RLS” that was hilariously vague about saying the word “vibrator”
Once again adding also useful if you have dystonia or any kind of muscle spasticity. I have cervical dystonia (neck spasms) and dystonia in my left leg that’s essentially like persistent Charley horse cramps from my neuromuscular issues and bought a Hitachi expressly for this purpose lol
A vibrator has been recommended to me to unblock clogged milk ducts for anyone that may apply to
I learned about the sinus thing and immediately bought a vibrator for that purpose. And yes, it DOES help with sinus headaches.
higher end vibrators are often used by opera singers to massage their vocal cords
When I was having SI joint flares and sciatica, my more powerful vibrators were lifesavers.
I was told by my professors that Kitty Genovese was a 28-year-old unmarried woman who was attacked, raped, and brutally murdered on her way home from her shift as manager of a bar. I was told that numerous people witnessed the attack and her cries for help but didn’t do anything because they “assumed someone else would”. Nobody intervened until it was too late.
Now… is it likely that people overheard Kitty’s cries for help and ignored them because they thought someone else would deal with it? Or, perhaps, did they ignore her because they knew she was a lesbian and just didn’t care?
Maybe that’s not the case. Maybe it was just a random attack. Maybe her neighbours didn’t know she was gay, or didn’t care.
But it’s a huge chunk of information to leave out about her in a supposedly scientific study of events, since her sexuality made her much more vulnerable to violent crimes than the average person. And it’s a dishonour to her memory.
RIP Kitty Genovese. Society may only remember you for how you died, but I will remember you for who who were.
this was one of the first lessons I had in psych too and we were never told about this either nor was it in any of the reading materials
I never knew this.
I also never knew this about Kitty Genovese, but I do know that, in fact, many of the dozen (not thirty-eight) people who witnessed some part of the attack (which took place after 3AM, on a chilly night in March when most people’s windows were closed) tried to help in some way.
One shouted out his window for the attacker to leave her alone, which did successfully scare the man off temporarily.
Another called the police but, seeing her still on her feet, said only that there had been a fight but the woman seemed to be okay.
And when Kitty Genovese was finally attacked in a vestibule where she couldn’t be seen from outside, Karl Ross, a neighbor, saw what was happening but was too frightened himself to go to her rescue–so he started calling other neighbors to ask what he should do. Eventually one of them told him to call the police, which he did, and the woman he called, Sophie Farrar, rushed out to help Kitty even though she didn’t know whether the attacker was gone.
Kitty Genovese died in the arms of a neighbor who tired to help and comfort her while they waited for the police and ambulance to arrive. Kitty was in fact still alive, although mortally wounded, when the ambulance reached the scene.
The man who saw the final stabbing? Who panicked and called other neighbors first instead of the police? The man who said, infamously, that he “didn’t want to get involved” because he was reluctant to turn to the police for help? He was thought to be gay himself. He was a friend of Kitty and Mary Ann’s. After being interviewed by the police he took a bottle of vodka to Mary Ann and sat with her, trying to comfort her.
So, no. I don’t think the evidence indicates that Kitty Genovese’s neighbors let her die because she was a lesbian, because Kitty Genovese’s neighbors tried to help.
(Also, going by the content of the murderer’s confession, it was indeed a random attack.)
how on EARTH was this “scientifically” studied but the details gotten so wrong and the wrong as hell conclusion published and taught in schools?!?!?! where were those scientists observation skills?! on vacation?!
How to take facts and turn them into an urban legend that gets taught in schools: Make a bad made-for-t.v.-movie about it, watch it, believe everything the movie says, annnnnnnd go! That’s how it gets taught as this supposed “scientific study.” Someone got fucking lazy.
I want to add one crucial but telling detail: the story about the 38 witnesses didn’t come out of nowhere, it was handed to the New York Times City Editor by the Police Commissioner in order to distract said editor from asking unwelcome questions about a different case, and the story that was eventually written and which made headlines was almost entirely composed from police sources.
At the time, the NYPD was coming under quite a bit of criticism about rising crime rates and the seeming ineffectiveness of the police’s response to the problem. In the Kitty Genovese case, even though people did in fact call the police, it took about an hour for them to show up and the first detectives didn’t arrive until three hours later (at which point they mostly spent their time interrogating Kitty’s girlfriend about their relationship, because for “some reason” they considered her to be the most likely suspect for the murder. In fact, the police wouldn’t catch the actual killer until six days later when he was picked up for having a stolen TV in the trunk of his car, at which point he admitted to having committed a total of three murders). It’s not an accident that one of the things to come out of the Genovese case was the establishment of the 9-1-1 system, because at the time that the attack happened, you had to call the specific number of a particular police precinct and it was up to the duty sergeant on the desk to take action - which was usually to send someone out from the precinct to the address reported, because cops on foot patrol wouldn’t be outfitted with two-way radios for several years.
It’s more than a little convenient that at a time when the NYPD is coming in for public scrutiny about its ability to do the basic job of responding to reports of crimes in a timely fashion, the Police Commissioner happens to hand the City Editor of the city’s most prominent newspaper a story which puts the blame for the slow response on the apathy and inaction of New Yorkers, neatly absolving the NYPD for its ridiculously poor performance in this case in particular and its response to the rise in crime in general.
It’s also quite telling that the New York Times ran with the story the way they did. It’s not like there weren’t people on the scene who said they had called the police, or that the basic facts about how many witnesses there were and what they had seen didn’t match the account that the commissioner had given. The writer the Times sent out chose not to include this information because “it would have ruined the story.“ The Times wanted to frame the story as a narrative about how the root of NYC’s problems was urban apathy and anomie - and the news organizations that picked up on the Times’ reporting and made the Kitty Genovese case a national and global story wanted to frame the story as proof that NYC was a dangerous urban jungle that deserved its decline because of the bad character of its residents.
I think the takeaway from this case isn’t just about sloppy scientific research, it’s that you have to always consider how official narratives are used to assign blame to specific individuals and groups and absolve larger institutions of responsibility.
Does anyone remember what happened to Radio Shack?
They started out selling niche electronics supplies. Capacitors and transformers and shit. This was never the most popular thing, but they had an audience, one that they had a real lock on. No one else was doing that, so all the electronics geeks had to go to them, back in the days before online ordering. They branched out into other electronics too, but kept doing the electronic components.
Eventually they realize that they are making more money selling cell phones and remote control cars than they were with those electronic components. After all, everyone needs a cellphone and some electronic toys, but how many people need a multimeter and some resistors?
So they pivoted, and started only selling that stuff. All cellphones, all remote control cars, stop wasting store space on this niche shit.
And then Walmart and Target and Circuit City and Best Buy ate their lunch. Those companies were already running big stores that sold cellphones and remote control cars, and they had more leverage to get lower prices and selling more stuff meant they had more reasons to go in there, and they couldn’t compete. Without the niche electronics stuff that had been their core brand, there was no reason to go to their stores. Everything they sold, you could get elsewhere, and almost always for cheaper, and probably you could buy 5 other things you needed while you were there, stuff Radio Shack didn’t sell.
And Radio Shack is gone now. They had a small but loyal customer base that they were never going to lose, but they decided to switch to a bigger but more fickle customer base, one that would go somewhere else for convenience or a bargain. Rather than stick with what they were great at (and only they could do), they switched to something they were only okay at… putting them in a bigger pond with a lot of bigger fish who promptly out-competed them.
If Radio Shack had stayed with their core audience, who knows what would have happened? Maybe they wouldn’t have made a billion dollars, but maybe they would still be around, still serving that community, still getting by. They may have had a small audience, but they had basically no competition for that audience. But yeah, we only know for sure what would happen if they decided to attempt to go more mainstream: They fail and die. We know for sure because that’s what they did.
I don’t know why I keep thinking about the story of what happened to Radio Shack. It just keeps feeling relevant for some reason.
my dnd party has run into an npc who may or may not be evil and may or may not decide to betray us and the dm was in chat today like “just so everyone knows…not addressing this comment at anyone in particular…his favorite colors are red and black…wink” so now i’m desperately trying to get a real physical friendship bracelet done before session tomorrow in the vain hope that i can somehow stop this npc from trying to do a murder on my party
UPDATE: the npc was in fact a shapechanged adult black dragon with violence and conquest in his heart. however he did let merry put a friendship bracelet on him and then when she was like “hm okay how big is your wrist in dragon form” he was like “you wanna see?” and then turned into a dragon and let merry measure him for a second, dragon-sized friendship bracelet. the dm described him afterwards as being deeply confused as to why he did this or let any of this happen to him. call that the merry effect
this guy is now a recurring npc because merry was SO determined to make him her friend that it actually somehow worked. he cast dream to talk to one of my party members like “hey…how’s it going…how are the tieflings in the party…not that i care…also i’m not lonely. bye” and the player was like “is he still wearing merry’s friendship bracelet in this dream” and the dm was like “yeah…”
fsdfjhskdf the dm just sent us all this image
so merry taught naeric (the dragon) the power of love, obviously, and because his heart was open and beautiful he started dating…a SECOND evil dragon. and then that gf betrayed him and cast ninth level imprisonment on him so now naeric is our damsel in distress and we have to save him from his girlfriend, the actual villain. how the turntables…
and. in the most horrible plot twist of all. the gf stole his friendship bracelet.
I do have to impress on anyone who wasn’t around for it how batshit the reality boom of the 2000s could be. Especially on Fox.
Here are some 100% real 2000s reality shows:
Who’s Your Daddy? A woman has to guess which of eight men is her biological father. One of them really is, and if she guesses right she wins $100,000. If one of the seven fake dads convinces her to guess them, he wins $100,000.
Black. White. A white family learns about racism by living a month in blackface, while a black family spends a month in whiteface. The black family was a real family, but the white family was just some actors hired to put on blackface to prove racism exists
Welcome to the Neighborhood. Three conservative white families in a Austin subdivision decide which diverse family gets to move in. Unaired due to being literal housing discrimination
Seriously, Dude, I’m Gay. Two straight men try to pass themselves off as gay and whoever seems more gay gets $50,000. Unaired due to. Due to. Due to
Playing It Straight. A woman tries to find love among fourteen men, half of whom are straight and half of whom are gay, and she must eliminate two men she believes are gay each week. If she ended up picking a straight man in the end, they’d split a million dollars; if she picked a gay man, he’d win a million dollars
Boy Meets Boy. This was Playing It Straight but starring a gay man and he had to eliminate straight people
Who Wants to Marry a Multimillionaire? He wasn’t a multimillionaire. He didn’t even have a million dollars in liquid assets. He had a battery conviction Fox claims they didn’t see. Because it was the 2000s, somehow this ended up with the woman he won being widely vilified and turned into a national punchline. How dare she complain about a massive corporation tricking her into marrying a lying abuser, good thing Matt Lauer’s there to take her down a peg
The Swan. A “ugly” woman is given plastic surgery and wins a prize if she’s the hottest at the end of the season. If she’s not hot enough by the show’s standards she’s eliminated and called ugly on national TV
The Biggest Loser. Overweight people engage in competitive crash weight loss that often led to awful health complications. Studies showed basically everyone on the show regained any weight they lost once it was over and they didn’t have abusive trainers demanding they take huge health risks to win a competitive weight loss competition. Like the others, this one was cancel-oh, it was a massive hit that ran for 18 seasons? Yikes!
Wife Swap and Trading Spouses. These were the same show and had a wife from one family go to another family that was different politically, racially, culturally, religiously etc. Most famous for the God Warrior
At the time people focused on the likes of Fear Factor but looking back it’s wild how many of the worst shows toyed with politics. So many of these shows have a premise that’s like “what if we exposed these conservatives to these people they hate?” or hyping themselves up as Important Experiments. Then they’d freak out when they got the kind of viral bigoted freakout they were trying to construct the whole time.
There were also a bunch of horrible reality shows, thankfully this time mostly unpopular, in the 2010s that based themselves around economic themes as a response to the market crash, but that’s a story for another time
Murder in Small Town X. A murder mystery reality show, but unlike most murder mystery games that have a cozy manor-house-mystery vibe this one was all edgy 2000s slasher film aesthetics. The season finale aired on September 4th, 2001 and the winner died in 9/11
Lost. No not that one. This one was actually cool (this one and the one above are the only two I actually saw at the time). Contestants were taken to a unknown country and had to first figure out where they were, and then get from there to New York City to win. In the first episode they were abandoned in the middle of Mongolia. Anyway this show about people being flown to the middle of nowhere and safely & freely traveling around the world premiered on Tuesday, September 4th, 2001 and, uh, did not seem so feasible by episode two’s premiere date
What the fuck I watched both of those. How did this silly post lead me to remembering what I was doing a week before 9/11
The Runner: This show was about one contestant as a fugitive, running across the country, evading capture from “agents” as he bypassed security in cities and at airports. Mysteriously dropped unaired from its planned late 2001 release date - who could say why!
Moment of Truth. People answer embarrassing questions on polygraph. Cancelled when one woman, with little prompting, admitted she stole money from her boss, wished she’d married her ex-boyfriend, and cheated on her husband, then was eliminated when the lie detector judged her saying “I’m a good person” a lie. Absolute icon
Are You Hot?: The Search for America’s Sexiest People. Maybe the nadir of reality show creativity since literally the only premise was to put hot people on a stage and judge if they’re hot enough, with nothing else being considered. Lorenzo Lamas, arbiter of human attractiveness, used a laser pointer to point to the “problem areas” of contestant’s bodies
Man vs. Beast. Humans engage in athletic feats against animals. A professional eater competitively eats opposite a bear! Dwarves race a elephant! A sumo wrestler tug-of-wars a orangutan! The producer of this says he couldn’t make his animals-fight-humans show today bc society is too “woke”
I’m actually curious what bizarre shows other countries had. I know the UK had several ‘cause a lot of these are based on UK shows, and their reality TV boom started earlier and afaik was more popular than America’s, like my distant sense is that reality TV drama got non-stop coverage over there. What batshit reality shows were airing on Channel 4 and ITV back then, does anyone know??
@ everyone: please. Add your own entries into this terrible archive
H8R. Not a 2000s show but a early 2010s show. A show where online commentators who made fun of celebrities were shamed by the celebrities in-person. But it wasn’t, like, people who had said racist things, it was people who made jokes about reality TV stars and famous-for-being-famous celebrities. You know, people whose own shows treat them as a joke? Most infamously the show took people to task for insulting Joe “Girls Gone Wild” Francis, since god forbid anyone online dare to criticize someone sued multiple times for filming underage girls. He was charged for false imprisonment and assault earlier the same year he did the show about how unfair it was that internet trolls were mean to him. If it hadn’t been cancelled they planned to expose the “haters” of Sarah Palin and Mel Gibson
Seriously, this review of it has stuck with me. They tried to frame this show about how the peasants should never criticize their betters as anti-bullying! All the celebs featured on it turned out to be exactly like they seemed on TV! All their criticism of the celebs was mild and on point (like the reality stars were mad that people are judging them based on the characters they choose to play on their shows? How else were they supposed to be judged, exactly, besides what they choose to show to the public?)
If you made this show now it’d be called UnCancelled and everyone on it would’ve been “cancelled” or something. Logan Paul and Pewdiepie would be on it. Gina Carano would be on it. It would be the worst show ever made
British TV managed to find a show less healthy than The Biggest Loser. Incredible @redacted-user-69420
This reminds me of an American show called I Wanna Marry “Harry”, where twelve American women were taken to a castle and competed to date a British guy posing as Prince Harry.
People joked about how the women could’ve fallen for it but according to a interview with the winner they didn’t, but Fox basically had a gaslighting regime to separate them and quash doubt??? They were isolated in hotel rooms with no connection to the outside world and told not to look around in public, lest they see a image of the real Prince? Fox had someone pose as a therapist and tell the cast they were being delusional for thinking he wasn’t Prince Harry??? Like they didn’t treat it as a joke, they were dead serious about making them believe he was the real Prince Harry. Incredible Sex House energy
So The Runner did eventually come out, since they did a version in 2016 for something called…go90? What the hell is go90? (A defunct streaming service owned by Verizion, apparently)
Hunted sounds worse though bc on The Runner the chasers were also game show contestants, like viewers at home could be picked to be chasers. While on Hunted they were all cops???
Ruby Bridges is 68. This is not ancient history. Not even close.
I know Ruby. She’s a really nice person. The idea that they would try and write what she did as a girl out of history is shocking to me on so many levels, the simplest of which is just, but don’t they know how lovely she is?
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